I just wanted to let you know that I strongly agree with you on your website.
But there are some cases that will have to go through Domestic's. I live with my
husband and 2 children from a previous relationship. My husband also has a child
from a previous relationship that lives with his mother (if "mother"
is the right word for her). My husband pays $82 a week in support for a 5 year
old child. He is a trucker, but he is the only one working. I don't work because
we can't afford the daycare. It is actually cheaper for me to stay home. My
husband's ex makes $14+ an hour while my husband works 80+ hours a week just to
average the $14 an hour. His ex also gets support for her other child($115 a
week). She has a live in boyfriend that also makes about $12+ an hour. Here we
are struggling to make it and she is out buying anything and everything. My
husband's son NEVER has new clothes on and she won't even but him a new coat or
shoes. WE do. He only gets him every other weekend because he is constantly
working to try and pay our bills.
The next part of our life, my kids father (SPERM DONOR as I call him), Hardly
ever works. As of October when I had him thrown in jail for the second time for
failure to pay child support, he owed me over $10,000. He also has another child
that at that time , he was over $3000 in the hole for. In January, his mother
bailed him out and I got a nice check in the mail. He still at that point owed
me over $5000. Since he was released, I have received 1 child support check.
That was just last week. 4 whole months that he has been out and I have gotten
$72 to support my kids. Now, he is not working again and he found some stupid
girl (who has an 8 and an 11 year old) to put up with his crap. While he is
sitting home ALL day eating whatever he can, we are sitting here wondering how
we are going to pay our bills. I was one of those "nice" people who
only asked for $85 a week to support 2 kids. At the time I opened the case, that
was only half of daycare and half of diapers. No food, electricity, roof over
their heads or anything. My husband (boyfriend at the time) and I just wanted
him to help with the 2 expensive things. It was our (my husband and I)
responsibility to put a roof over their heads and pay OUR bills. My ex should've
helped pay for some of their food. I never even worried about the money as long
as he had a relationship with my kids. Then he decided to walk out of their
lives and now I am being SCREWED by Domestic's because they just want to slap
him on the wrist. Now he is in a parenting class for a year or so. Woohoo! What
is that going to do? He's not even around his kids. Where is my Justice? Now I
received a letter the other day that he has another court hearing. Gee, they
will probably just give him 6 months or 120 work release again. Or someone will
probably bail him out once more and I will have to keep fighting with the
system. He also won't sign off his parental rights, but he doesn't want to
suppport or see them either. He tells everyone that I won't let him see them. He
can come over ANYTIME!!! I have NEVER held these kids from him. My little girl
who is 3, doesn't even know who her "father" is. As far as she is
concerned, my husband is her DADDY. My son knows who his "father" is,
but now calls him his friend. My husband is his DADDY too. My kids will always
know the truth, but they will know the WHOLE truth when they get older.
I just wanted you to know that I DO agree with you, but I also believe that I
need to go through the "system" to keep my ex in jail. My ex is
choosing his life by not supporting his kids. As far as my husband's case, it's
sounds almost like yours! It STINKS!!! He needs justice too, but the court goes
by his earnings at 80+ hours a week and don't bother with hers.
Thanks for the website!
