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Sent: Wednesday, November 21, 2001 3:31 PM
yes i have a comment to make to the person that
thinks the father is being takin over the coals. i got out
of 3 yr abusive relationship with my ex through a pfa
***Was this "abuse" proven in
court?***
there is a child involved. this child saw
me physically and mentally abused til he was 3 yrs old.
***Physically abused how? Mentally abused
how? What exactly do you claim he did to abuse you?***
he also was mentally and sometimes physically
abused.
***How?***
i did not file for the divorce. the father
did
***What reason did he give for filing for
divorce?***
....i was for several yrs after scared to death
of my ex s threats...that he was going to get custody of our son
***Maybe he is scared to death that you
have custody of the child***
. i took him for child support
and am only receiving not even a third of his income a week
***What the hell do you need 1/3 of his income a
week for? You know, and I know that you don't spend it on the child,
there is no way that you do***
....because he told them at domestic i had
management skills and did not make an attempt to work for the last 2 yrs.
***You probably don't have to work with all
the money you are taking from your son's father for your free
paycheck.***
which i did work....but
was unable to keep working becasue my son was hospitalized with asthma
attacks twice in one yr.....and woke up at night screaming for me. my
son is now 11 yrs. old and is seeing his father every other weekend and
every wednesday and again is threatening me me for custody.
***Your son having asthma is no reason for not
to work. You are saying 2 days out of 365 your son had asthma
attacks and you can't work because of that? Give me a break!***
my son, becasue i believe of what
he has seen in the past.....has councilors coming to our home and goes to a
behavior school. my ex is taking credit for all this....i mean getting
him back into school again. all hes ever done is attened
the the meetings....he doesnt know of all the phone calls i have made.
my ex works at a steel mill here in pa. and makes quite a bit of
money.....around 25.00 an hr. and i am getting a 100.00 a week for
support.
***Your son is probably angry because of all the
nasty things that are going on between you and your ex. My son has behavioral
problems when he is with his mom, so she claims. He is a normal 6 year
old child when he is with me and I NEVER have any of the problems with him
that she describes to me. She has him going to a shrink because she
thinks there is something wrong with him. The only thing that is wrong
with him is that his mother acts like a child herself and thinks nothing
more of me than her free paycheck just like you do to your ex. The sad
thing about this is that the "family court system" in Pennsylvania
thinks the same thing of good fathers like me and then they wonder, excuse
my language, why there are so many kids that are so ****** up and have the
behavioral problems that they do. Their answer is to put them on all
the wonderful psych meds, that will solve the problem for sure....do you get
the picture? If not, take a look around the world you live in these
days. My ex seems to believe that she is entitled to make all
decisions, the child is entirely her "property", and most of these
decisions that she makes are irresponsible and irrational and in
reality no good for my son but you see, I can't seem to get the courts to do
anything about this unless I have about 10-15 thousand dollars to pay
lawyers and all the other "professionals" that will be appointed
to tell the judge that my ex is the one with the mental problem and my son
is really better of living with his dad because his dad doesn't think of his
mom as a free paycheck and would never stop her from seeing the child just
because he got pissed off at her...catch all that? Maybe you and my ex
could be "best buddies" because you and her think alike. It
must be a sickness.***
i believe that in a situation like mine......an
abusive father should pay and lose everything that they have.....becasue who
waaants to stay ina relationship like this.
***I will say this again...was this abuse
proven? Have you been to the hospital bruised and beaten? Or is
this something you are fabricating in order to gain the "upper
hand" in Pennsylvania's screwed up courts. My ex, just the other
day in court, came out with some crap that I am mentally abusing her.
I guess trying to hold a conversation with her and make her see my
side of the whole thing, which she doesn't see, is mental abuse.
Maybe you should have the child taken from you by some person who doesn't
even know you and be forced to pay your ex 1/3 of your weekly salary.
I bet your tune would change then wouldn't it.***
he does nothing but threaten me with courts and
wants control of our sons monies and is now trying to tell me that my son
cannot miss any school. i am getting sick and tired
of this and i am now bound and determined to try and get him into supervised
visits.
***This story is entirely one sided. Does
your ex have e-mail? I would love to hear his side of the story.
I think you need to take a good look at what you are saying here and compare
it to what is right and what is wrong. By right and wrong, I
mean what is morally and ethically right or wrong. Our society is
running short on those these days. From what I read here you are part
of the problem, not the solution***
thank you.....an angry mom from pa.
***No, thank you for letting me know that there
are others that are just like my ex out there who think that children are
their free meal ticket to free money from their ex...people who don't really
care about anything but themselves. You need to put yourself in your
child's fathers place and then you will see why he is taking you to court
and will probably try to get custody. He probably has no choice from
the level of cooperation from you to ensure his right to a good relationship
with his son and not just a paycheck to you and a visitor like the state
encourages so that they can make money from the whole thing. I bet
that you didn't know that for every dollar they take from him and give to
you they get money from the federal government did you? Do a little
research and you might just see how it really is.***
Dave
a fair and good father from PA with morals and
values who had his son taken from him with lies and false claims of
"abuse"
