I am a 26 year old female. My boyfriend has an 8 year old boy who
he is supposed to be paying child support for. Mind you he only makes 6.00 an
hour and slaves like a dog working to keep up "a living" for himself
and mine.
His court order is to pay 137.00 a week in child support for one child making
minimum wage which is ridiculous. Well he just got sent to do 6
months in the minimal offenders part of jail because he was not paying his
support and owes 2200.00........ why you ask was he not paying it? because his
ex girlfriend is money hungry and wants just more and more out of
him.....nothing is ever good enough.
Every time that he locates his son his ex always either moves or changes her
phone number to where we cannot get it so he is paying all this money and not
being able to see his son anyway which he got fed up with paying all that money
and not being able to even see him.
Now here I am 7 months pregnant due in 8 more weeks with his child and he has
to miss out on the birth of his child and I have to raise this child 4 months of
its first year of life because she is too money hungry.... Who is this hurting
by him sitting in jail????? No one; all of our higher ups cry because our
jails are "overcrowded" and a lot of the people in the minimal
offenders building are sitting there 24-7 not doing anything but crowding the
jail system up for child support when they could be spending their time seeing
and visiting their children..
Instead of doing something smart enough like making a law that is like this
one on the page....Equal rights to the child and each support him or her on
their own.
I am not writing this story to get sympathy on my child's father because I
have 2 other children whose father pays support (as little as possible) 40.00 a
week for 2 children which is good enough but I would much rather him take
these children as much as I do and have a bond with them then pay me the
money.
This law would be in the best interest of children and fathers (or the other
missing parent) and maybe there would be more children closer to the other
parent that is not with them!
This sounds like something my wife would have written a
few years back. The same thing was happening to us. She has two kids
from a previous marriage and her ex pays about what yours pays for the two of
them. The money isn't important to her, her kids having a dad is. He
takes them 4 days a month, you know, the normal routine, because it seems that
his girlfriend is more important to him than they are.
I was paying more than your boyfriend a month for one
child. My wife and I were left with barely enough to survive. I
couldn't just not pay, or I probably would have done the same thing your
boyfriend is doing. They just took it right out of my check without any
consideration whatsoever as to what we were left with. They say "the
guidelines are law". A team of lawyers and a judge writing their own
law. I wonder what kind a law I would write if I knew that I could make a
ton of money from it???
Many times the question has come up to my wife that if
her ex would take the kids half the time, or close to half the time, would she
still want support? Her answer is "hell no", and the reason is
obvious....she would only have HALF of the expense if that were the case.
As for me, only after going through all sorts of nasty
court hearings, did my ex have enough sense to realize that the whole family
court system is set up for lawyers to make money. I guess she got tired of
paying hers when I kept dragging her back to court (I went pro se). What
the courts decide as the "best interests" in never in the best
interests of any child, only in the best interests of lawyers and all of those
who are getting rich from the divorce industry. There is no real justice
allowed in order to keep people fighting and coming back to court so that they
can pay lawyers. They are feeding off of innocent people like sharks and
getting away with it
Since then my ex and I have an agreement (only after
she took over $18,000 from me in three years). I guess that was enough for
her to pay off her new car and all the other nice stuff she seemed to
acquire. Now I take my boy as much as possible...sometimes more than half
the time...no money is exchanged....and we help each other out as much as
possible with his care. Split all bills such as doctors bills,
clothes...etc. There hasn't been a fight since. True "CHILD
SUPPORT".
I did think briefly about going for full custody a few
times, but I really don't believe in taking a child away from the other
parent. It is wrong.
How hard would it be for our "justice system"
to make laws that are fair to parents and children? There should not be a
"non-custodial parent", it should be both parents being held
accountable to their children with their TIME as is the whole theme of this web
site.
Even though things are going OK with me and my ex now,
I would still like to be assured that if something does happened, that the
family courts would be fair if they are needed to settle anything. That is
why I am so dedicated to this issue.
