I am married to a
wonderful man, who was married to the b---- from h---(pardon my language).
When I first met my husband he had been
separated from her for two years. They had a son together that was age 5. He was
paying her 160.00 a week (100.00 for alimony and 60 for support) and his pay was
only 200.00 some weeks, that left him 40.00 to live on for the week. It was
160.00 because he worked for his dad and got paid under the table. His dad
showed the judge his books, but the judge said that his dad was probably lying
and slapped him
with the 160.00 anyhow. He had to revert to living with his mom and dad.
To top it all off she was warded
"primary custody". After she got what she wanted she left my husband
have their son whenever he wanted (she wanted the money not the boy)
Then I came into the picture and got
along very good with the boy and she didn't like that. So she decides to keep
him from his dad. Not at home when he shows up to pick him up for his scheduled
visitation and the list goes on. He doesn't have the money to take her into
court.
Then the alimony stops. We got married,
and had a daughter (makes her mad). She decides to take him back in. Child
support goes from 60.00 to 70.00 a week. My husband is forced to find a better
paying job (while she is not working, shacking up with her boyfriend (who has to
work to support her) and sitting on her butt for 2 years then decides to
go to college for 3 years ) After being unemployed for 5 years. She gets a 20.00
an hour job from her college degree. We have a second child, a boy. My husband
decides to take her in to court to get his child support lowered, since we
now have two children and both of us have to work to get by, and she is
making a more than decent wage, WRONGO the system doesn't work that way his
support went up to 85.00 a week (where's the fairness?)
She dumps the shack up that supported
her all those years and moves another shack up in that she (no, my husband) has
to support. She works a couple of years and decides she "travels" too
far for work, too much ware and
tear on her car, and she needs to spend more time with her son. She takes a severance
pay from her work and leaves her 20.00 an hour job for a 7.00 an hour job closer
to home, takes him back in and now she gets 105.00 a week. (she's smart huh?)
Not even a month later of getting the 105.00 a week she takes her job back at
20.00 an hour (I guess the ware and tear was worth it).
My husband says to me should I take her
back in to get it lowered. I told him no because it would probably go to 120.00
a week. We only have 2 years to go until my stepson is 18, he won't be going on
to college because he's failing high school. He doesn't do his homework
(remember she wanted to spend more time with him, but she can't make sure
his homework gets done) She has him working during the summer so he can
"buy" his own school clothes (where is the 105.00 going?) He turned 16
this year, starting to drive. NOW she's pushing him to come and live with us
(she's not stupid) He doesn't have a car yet. She's making him buy that also.
And he's looking at a CAMARO (get the picture yet?) Young man, sports car,
failed drivers ed (no discount) and she wants him to come live with daddy (can
you just imagine the car insurance that the person in which he resides with
would have to pay?) I don't see that happening because then she would have to
pay us support (she'd probably quit her job then) She knows how to work the
system.
I am all for shared custody with no
support, because all those years that she only allowed her son to see his dad
when it was convenient for her, her son lost out. He doesn't have the father/son
relationship that fathers and sons should have.
I hope that I have enlightened people
as to what goes on in the Domestic Relations section. If you are the man you
might as well put your head between your legs and kiss your butt.
