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My husband died on July 17th of last
year of a drug overdose, and I found him
dead in our basement, him and our daughter were the best of friends, daddy's
little girl, she is 15 years old. Anyway she started to act out negatively
and my consuming alcohol didn't help after the husband passed away. She and
some of her friends decided to go to a store and steal, 1st time and she and
her friends got caught and then to add to this, truancy played a role in her
being placed by children and youth here in Northampton County, Pa.
When we went to court I had curved my drinking tremendously, I did this on my
own, just my own self esteem began to re-surface. When my daughter and I went
to court thanks to children and youth, the judge stated in front of my
daughter, after I explained what her and I went through regarding the death
of her father, his exact words were" I have never heard of anyone acting
out
over a persons death, and it has been known that your husband was a well
known drug addict, he said this in front of the entire court room and my
daughter and I, I feel that this was a horrible thing to say and insensitive,
whether he was or not, shows no justification for this remark.
Children and youth took my child and placed her in a home for 6 months, for
truancy, and then decided to place her on Zoloft without my permission, they
told me that they had her permission, I had a fit and told them that I would
seek a lawyer, that they had no right and that I was still her parent, they
soon removed her.
Now I have to go to court to fight a child order to pay $403.00 per month for
my daughter, I am employed full time and I make $12.00 per hour, and my
daughter receives $659.00 per month, social security benefits from her
father, Domestic Relations doesn't understand that these $ are used to keep a
roof over our heads, clothing for my daughter and food, not to mention the
fines that I am paying for truancy, this doesn't matter to them.
It was court order for me to go to individual counseling, group therapy,
parenting classes and family counseling, I have just completed parenting
classes, please keep this in mind, I have 4 children, 31,21,21,15, the other
3 are just fine, so what is wrong with this picture.
I have done everything that they have wanted me to do, I go to all my
meetings, every last one of them, and they seem to keep throwing boulders in
my way. I go to work everyday and keep in constant contact with my daughter
and she comes home on visits. We have even completed supervised visits, and
they continue to dig and dig and they are not coming up with anything at all.
I consider myself to be a good mother, and I know that my daughter is
basically a good person, female, and a child, for them to separate two people
was un-necessary and uncalled for, it was a thrill for them, the power that
they must feel.
I ? just how many of them are doing drugs, how many of them get random drug
testing, hair follicles, not urine, I wonder what my rights are to request
such tests?
I do not do drugs, and as I told them, if they would of come around me when I
found my husband dead in the basement, then by all means they could of called
me an alcoholic, my best friend was bud, I didn't eat, just drink, bathe and
go back to bed, I didn't even think of what my daughter was going through,
just my hurt, anger and fear, I woke up way before they entered our lifes but
they didn't want to hear the truth.
And it is interesting to me that they won't tell me whom reported me except
for a principal from the school for the truancy, who are these 2 family
members, possibly drug addicts that I won't allow to tear me down, I would
say so, but this is o.k. for the lord works in mysterious ways and I know in
my heart that he is on my side.
I happen to love my daughter, all my children, and we meaning the daughter
and I realize that we didn't do this to the husband or the father, that this
was his choice, and the guilt no longer exists, but the mere fact that we
need and are going on a positive sense.
I have no problem playing the child support as long as they meaning Domestic
relations makes it 201.50 per month and stretches it out a longer amount of
time, but the way they are doing it, we will have no place to live.
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