The Center for Children's Justice - Pennsylvania Chapter


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I know that you are interested in the stories of men who are paying child support but it's not always the man that gets the shaft! I have been trying to find my girls dad for 5 years now and he just keeps on running. He is also running from his ex wife and their 12 year old daughter. ( we were never married) He has also been in and out of jail his whole life. I have a court date set for a few days from now and I'm sure he wont be there yet again, but by some chance he is I'm being forced by the "system" to take his money. I have no need want nor desire to take anything of his. I have been a single mom for 5 years why stop now? I talked to a lawyer about getting him to sign over his rights and they tell me that unless I am married ( I am not) and my husband is willing to adopt my kids the judge wont let him sign his rights to me. So the system says as a woman I am not capable of raising my kids without a man and any father is better than none. He has never seen our girls so as far as I'm concerned there is no father already. I don't care about me or him. We are adults and we can bounce back from anything but my kids are a different story. They can be crushed in the blink of an eye which I'm sure will happen if he is forced into their lives. They can't miss something they have never had and they don't care that he's not here. We talk about it all the time and I have never said anything negative about him even though he is obviously garbage. It's not about the adult and who can live on what b/c I have supported myself and 2 girls on $5 an hour for 5 years so don't talk to me about how bad these men have it. Its not about them! Its about the children and every case is different! It should be what is in the best interest of the child. I have done this myself for 5 years and I have no say so what so ever about what should be done with my kids, but the minute he pays me he gets to have say so.... your telling me that's fair b/c he's a man and he pays.... what about me? What about my kids? Haven't they paid enough... not in cash but emotionally? These laws must change and it must be about the children not the adult! I don't know what else to do about what is going on. Its not fair to my kids that they have to go through this. I hope that this sheds some light on "the other side of the story"

Concerned mom

 

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This web site is strictly for your information about what is happening in our state; Pennsylvania.  Information and opinions on this website are NOT "legal" advice but ARE friendly advice from people who have been through the local domestic relations office and are very familiar with the crimes against humanity that office is getting away with strictly for PROFIT at the expense of fathers and their children.  Feel free to copy and repost any information on this site unless said information is credited to a web site other than Pennsylvania Family Court Reform (this website).  In this case, you must ask permission from the author, and since it's been our experience that most of the people that support our cause are good people, they most likely won't have a problem with it.  It's time to reclaim our state and our rights as Americans that are being trampled and ignored by a select portion of our state government, who's sole interest is PROFIT from federal grants for "child support" collection, at our expense... our JUDICIAL branch.