I am complete disbelief and can't understand why our society, especially in
this day of age, hasn't done anything to protect and fight for the
Constitutional rights of our fathers and children. Several years ago I worked
for a criminal attorney. I frequented several hearings and depositions. I
witnessed child abusers getting off because of legal technicalities and murders
get a lesser charge because they were able to claim temporarily insanity, or
what have you. Deals were offered, facts had to be provided and the allegations
had to be proven. The United States' Bill of Rights clearly states that the
accused has the right to a speedy and public trial, by an impartial jury of the
State and district wherein the crime shall have been committed, which district
shall have been previously ascertained by law, and to be informed of the nature
and cause of the accusation; to be confronted with the witnesses against him; to
have compulsory process for obtaining witnesses in his favor, and to have the
Assistance of Counsel for his defense. It seems to me that this Amendment does
not apply to the issue at hand. More times then less the mother is granted
custody and the father is awarded visitation. A jury isn't present and witnesses
aren't confronted.
Research and studies have proven over and over again that fatherless children
are more likely to commit suicide, drink, and experiment with drugs. The teen
pregnancy rate is higher in fatherless homes and children in these situations
are more likely to be incarcerated. If anything, we are violating the rights of
our children. Who is protected them?? Just as you, the non-custodial father, has
(what we thought) a Constitutional right to parent, my child has a right to be
protected from the children of these horrible statistics. My child has a right
to walk through her school doors without the fear of being gun down. She has the
right to walk down the streets without fearing that she may be raped or
assaulted. She has a right to socialize, meet new classmates and make friends
without feeling pressured that her new acquaintance may be the next suicide or
teen pregnancy statistic. Of course, allowing fathers to be fathers will not be
the cure all, but is sure will put a positive dent in reducing this high
statistics.
Divorce is too easy. We are penalized for marriage and single mothers are,
what I feel, awarded for defying morality. The government provides them with the
temptations and secures them with support. Financial aid, government housing,
tax breaks, and daycare assistance. Hey, the government even gives you money at
tax time for the children. My best friend of 15 years pockets over 3K each year.
And let us not forget that in most cases child support is inflated and, in
actuality, the mother would be receiving more financial support from the father
living separately then if married and/or residing together. When both parents
are residing together, there seems to be a stronger force and unbelievable
desire between the two have to deal with what has been handed to them. Making
alternating job schedules to avoid costly daycare expenses. Drive a more modest
car. Live in reasonable housing. And so on…… At your child support and
custody sentencing it's as if all your efforts then are no longer valid. The
mothers that once honored you enough to create a child with you are now trying
to condemn you for life and sentence you to an eternity of slavery, only to
secure their wants and needs. She is still going to be with you for richer or
poorer. Only, she will become richer as you become poorer. It's not about the
children. It's time that we all unite. If you believe in what you are fighting
for then take a stand. It's time to take control. I am a stay at home mom that
is willing to work day and night and everything in between to see justice is
served. Fathers are being stripped of not only their rights, but of their pride
and dignity. We need to storm the Capital and demand that those who are hired to
uphold the law and protect our children are held accountable for their actions.
Nothing will be done and no one will be held accountable if action isn't taken.
We live in a society where a woman can sue McDonalds because she spilled hot
coffee on herself (and win!). We can prosecute a drug dealer with murder for
providing the narcotics that result in a deadly overdose. It's time we Just Say
No and keep the drugs off the streets. Although, in this case we need to say No
More to the Family Courts and keep those who violate our Constitutional rights
and those of our children out of office.
I propose that non-custodial parents all over to unite and march on the
Capital. It's not unrealistic and it can be done. Let's educate and support each
other. We have to start somewhere. We need to sought after those that strip us
of our rights and make them pay (legally). Denying visitation should be
considered kidnapping and charging the father to pay costly child support should
be considered theft. If a stranger came into my home and demanded one cent from
me, that is theft. If it is owed to him because of prior arrangements, then so
be it, but he must obtain the money from me legally and with proof that an
agreement was made. And the same should go for Family Courts. The children do
need financial support, I won't argue that. But let's be realistic. Just because
the father is able to further his career and/or education AFTER the ex, she
shouldn't benefit from it. And even so, if the father is earning more than maybe
he is the better fit parent. Why should the ex continue to reap reward from the
exes successes after their relationship is terminated. Let's face it......
Awarding the ex anything more than 50.00 a week per each healthy child that is
not in daycare should be a felony. Remember - the custodial parent is suppose to
have her own financial obligations as well. 25.00 on top of the NCP's 50.00 CS
is 75.00. What could one child possibly need in one week that would cost more
than 75.00? Or, 300.00 a month?? Never the less, you can't expect our government
to know this. They are trillions of dollars in debt and can't budget their own
bills and pay their own debts.
Custodial parents and the authorities that support them should be held
responsibility, because too many times they are not and in the long run it's the
children (and the non-custodial parent) that pays. Instead of wasting our time
complaining, let's use that time to turn this situation into a positive one.
Maybe we wont see the end result, but our children's children will. It is our
duty to protect our children.
Your advise and suggestions are not only welcomed, but are important.
Mom4dadsrights
