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What about the mom's living in poverty, who's "ex's" can afford
expensive legal representation, and expensive cars. WE live in fear, except
little, and expect nothing in exchange for being dedicated loving mothers, other
then watching our deprived children grow up, surviving on less then they
deserve. Our prayers are all about getting through another day hoping that our
children's father doesn't think up another way to reduce his financial
obligation to us, and also hoping no state agency forces us to go back to court
and ask these men for more then they already don't want to give to us, the
mother's and children left behind, when dad decides he'd rather have a nice car
or play poker, then have a nice family and play Candyland. We know that if this
"man's" feather's get "ruffled", Dad will move heaven and
earth and spend a fortune to do nothing but create chaos in the lives of the
children's mother's out of revenge, and blame the damage done to the children,
on us, the mothers, who gave up everything, just to try to keep the children
safe and happy, and in the "dark" about what daddy is
"really" like, "why", and "how" that cool present
"really" came about, ........ ETC. ..... . There comes a day when,
"Daddy" does love you honey, he just has some "problems right
now"; doesn't work any more. The children demand explanations for: Why
can't I have cool cloths? My friends Mom gave her $20.00 to go shopping with, I
only asked for $10.00.I want $150.00 sneakers like my friends have, Daddy say's
that's what he pays child-support for. It's mine!!!! GIVE it to ME!!! DADDY'S
RIGHT! YOU ARE JUST A GREEDY F'N #$%^& ! I HATE YOU! AND WHY IS IT SO F-N
COLD IN HERE, YOU COULD AT LEAST USE MY CHILD SUPPORT TO KEEP ME WARM! I WANT TO
LIVE WITH MY DAD!!!! I'm sorry honey, I know your sad and it's cold and it's not
fair. "The truth" is Daddy makes more money then he claims to, and can
afford to drive a cool car instead of our junk. (I'll park around the corner so
your friends won't see the rust on this car.) That sneaker money you want, pays
the heat bill, which is $300.00, not $150.00. (By the way, that's why I keep the
heat turned down so low and tell you to put on a sweater.) I know your
embarrassed by food stamps and a medical card, but I have to make sure you stay
healthy. I can't support you making minimum wage even with child support. Day
care for your brother will cost more then I can make. The people in charge of
subsidized day care will make me go back to court for a support increase, and
that will make Daddy mad all over again! No, that's not a lie, or an excuse, for
me to be just a lazy greedy #$%^&, like Daddy say's. A few weeks ago, I
checked into a new training program. I was really excited. I thought I finally
found a way to earn a good enough living so we wouldn't need child support, or
any subsidized anything. I shouldn't have gotten my hopes up so high. Please
hang in there honey, your little brother won't need day care for ever, but I'm
sad because I think I'm stuck until he's in kindergarten. I'm going to keep
looking for a way to get us a better life, but I can't stand to see how sad you
are. Do you want me to talk to him again about how he'd feel about you living
with him in his 2 bedroom apartment instead of you living here in our 2 bedroom
apartment? I think I can force him to say yes this time, If you really want me
to push it. You don't need a baby-sitter and he won't have to pay child support
anymore, so I think he's out of excuses. How Cameron and I get by without your
share of the child support is not your concern, we'll be fine. I just want you
to be safe and happy and warm, honey what do you need from me to be happy? All I
really have to offer you right now is love and to let you know that there is
hope for a better future. It just takes time.
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