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Hello, My name is Jesiah
 
    This has got to be one of the best web sites I have come across.  I live in Pennsylvania as well, I myself am going through rough times and share the same arguments and views that you have posted on your site.  I am a 28 year old male.  Recently divorced with two children.  I have an  8 year old son, and a 5 year old daughter.  My Ex-wife and I decided it was over back in November 1999 we had separated, I filed for child custody and for the divorce.  I was laid off from my job in the year of 2000.  I basically became Mr. Mom staying home raising our two children. The Ex-wife moved back in with her mother.  So, here I am trying to upkeep a house, and raising the children. 
   
    Things ended up with both of us got joint custody.  My attorney warned me about signing the divorce papers about the Ex-Wife wanting to have Joint Custody and with her having Primary Physical Custody.  I can not see how they can allow you to have an agreement with having that each party agrees on non-spousal support against each other but they would not be able to put in the divorce that both parties agree on non-child support payments.  The Ex-wife was on my case about signing the papers, I wanted the divorce to be finalized after waiting 3 years of separation.
 
    I had a girl friend who was with me back in year 2000 to 2001.  She left me because she couldn't deal with the Ex-Wife and the crap she put me through and still putting me through. The Ex-Wife's Father and Aunt bought her a house and I made the mistake of letting letting her have her Primary Physical Custody.  I figured her new house is in better condition and living environment for the children than the house I'm living in.  So, I signed the divorce papers.  I thought things where going okay, so I thought.  I was watching my daughter during the mornings and picking my son up after school until the Ex-Wife got off work. 
 
    I finally landed a evening telemarketing job working part time. Then one day I received a letter from Domestic Relations stating for a child support hearing.  I couldn't afford an attorney.  So I filled out the income/expense form and went to the meeting with out an attorney.  The woman didn't ask too many questions.  I just quietly sat there calm and answered her questions.  First question do we want to settle this out of the room before we continued, my Ex-Wife immediately said no.  Then the child support woman asked me for my income expense form, and asked my Ex-Wife for hers and she lost it at her house.  Then the woman asked me where I worked previously and that was it.  The meeting done and over.  I left and the Ex-Wife stayed and probably bad mouthed me to the woman.  Then a few weeks later I received the most unbelievable letter that I wish upon no one.  The Support Letter on how much I have to pay her and how they based me on a full time job at a rate that I'm not even making along with arrears.
 
    So, now I only get my children on the weekend.  The whole support payment really gets me mentally.  I try to calm myself but it keeps arising, what can I do?  Become a victim of this unconstitutional child support guide lines?  If I don't come up with the money I can lose my drivers license, or be imprisoned.  That really works, how does one losing they're license or imprisoned help support your child(ren).
   
    I'm still trying to get myself out of financial debt from the divorce.  How does a person support a house to live in based on one income? It took the both of our income to be able to support the house we got together.  Now I'm stuck with the whole mortgage payments, the car payment for a car that I didn't even want that it took both of us to get just right before we called it quits.  I even support her child that she had with her ex-boyfriend that went to jail, before we got married and during our marriage.
 
    I'm not a dead beat father and refuse to be.  I just recently have got another girlfriend in my life back in February this year who has gratefully helped me financially and mentally, but I still see some of the same history repeating itself.  With the Ex-Wife and new girlfriend thing.  It is just so difficult to get out of debt move on and start a new family/life.
 
    I apologize if this sounds like I'm venting on you, but I need to get it out.  I believe the whole child support should be re-vised.
Both parents should pay equal support. A savings account should be opened for the children and a percent from both parents should go in to their for when the children turn 18 years of age. Then that way both parents make a contribution and know that the children are getting support.  They shouldn't penalize one parent and not the other.
 
    I know there are lot of other fathers out there who are in the same situation I'm in, we need to unite and make this change for us and for our children's sake and for when they get in our situation.  Win / Win situation.
 
Please, I know with having your web page up you have gotten a lot of replies / feedback.  If you can help point me in the right direction or forward this e-mail to someone who can, please do.  Thank you for your time.
 
Sincerely,
 
Jesiah
 

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