Dear Madam:
I am writing to let you know that in Butler PA the
system IS bias against fathers. As a custodial mother I can tell you
that while I was involved in the court system everyone I came in contact with
told me and attempted to assist me in attacking my ex-husband. EVERY
time we went in to Domestic Relations for a support hearing or modification I
was told I could take just about everything he had.
Domestics did not concern itself with how he was
supposed to live, pay his mortgage, eat, pay bills etc... It was left to me to
waive numerous things in order that he was not destitute. Due to the Domestic
Relations workers, Lawyers and the Judges actions I have taken my cases with
my ex-husband from the court system and we now handle them privately.
It is appalling that there are only 3 states in the
US that require mandatory joint custody. Apparently there are women out there
threatened by the FACT that there are men who can and do care for their
children just as well or even better than women. This antiquated system needs
to change. Since when is it the courts right to tell a father he can only see
his child 4 days a month and the child sleeps at least 16 hrs of the 48?
As a mother I find it disgusting that the state and
courts can take a child's father from them and then say it is in their best
interest. As a mother the support I receive IS NOT mine but my Children's and
I use it for them and them alone. They have their own accounts that THEIR
money goes into.
Mothers NEED to be held accountable for the money
they receive for their children. Fathers do NOT owe mothers anything, they owe
their children and it is not right for mothers to pocket that money and use it
as they please. It is very clear to me that you do not care about this issue
nor do you grasp the reality of it. It is a shame that our children have to
suffer because of people like you who recommend such bias guidelines. And yes
I say our children because from 1st hand experience in the courts, and knowing
other mothers and fathers in my town I KNOW what goes on and care, unlike
yourself.
The rights of the children are to have equal access
to BOTH parents and what is in their best interest is to hold BOTH parents
accountable. Wake up!!! children NEED fathers and 90% are NOT "deadbeats".
There are more unfit drug addicted, abusive mothers than anyone wants to
acknowledge. Even when these women are shown unfit the bias court still grants
physical custody to these women. Do research, I mean really look at the cases
and their history at the court houses like I have spent time doing. Fit and
able fathers are unable to raise their children all "in the best
interest" of the child. May God help us all!! that is
just the lazy uncaring court system at work.
Most Sincerely,
Name withheld at
author's request
